OUCH! Having an accountability partner can be an amazing experience of deep friendship and intimate trust. But then there is the other side where the person you trust shows you a mirror and you are shocked at their forthrightness and dismayed by what you see in yourself. It hurts!
It may take awhile to admit your failure and begin to make the necessary changes to become the person you want to be. It may even take awhile to face your friend and allow them to journey with you through the steps you need to take to freedom. It is important to have that connection with one or more people. We need each other.
The truth is that your friend needs you to hold up the mirror too! You can be a help even while you are being helped.
Hebrews 10:24 says, "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds." (NIV) Spurs hurt, but we are called to love ourselves, others and God, so we must help each other with those "Projects" that bring us towards the goal!
Do you have someone you are accountable to? do you allow that person to spur you on to love and good deeds? I, myself, have reached out again to someone for that purpose. I hope we can help each other.